Gain Clarity & Find Your Purpose
What is Clarity?
The best definition we have found is “ Freedom from obscurity; the ease of understanding; clear expression” Mirriam-Webster
Life is often complicated, and there really isn’t any “one-size-fits-all” definition for what having clarity means. It could be knowing what you want to be when you grow up, knowing the type of person you’ll spend your life with, or coming out the other side of a challenging experience and seeing the whole situation with a fresh and more mature perspective.
When you DON’T have clarity and are living off-purpose, you are swimming up-stream, running against the wind, pitting yourself against yourself.
Imagine: You have a job you hate, but you stay because it pays well. You’re miserable at work and come home stressed. Your relationships are affected because you compromise so much of yourself during the workday, you have nothing left to give. Maybe you find comfort in a cocktail or two, or something to eat that affects your health and saps your energy. You wake up wishing you could get a root-canal instead of going back to work. You’re stuck, and you know it, but you don’t know how to get unstuck.
It doesn’t have to be this way.
Why is having clarity important?
When you have clarity:
You know how to answer these questions:
- What’s my purpose?
- What should I do next?
- How will I bounce back if things go wrong?
When you have clarity:
- You create a vision and set the right goals.
- Decisions come easily because you are acutely aware of your values and priorities.
- You are more fulfilled in your relationships, in your career, and in your social life.
- You learn to trust your instincts, and intuitively will know how to handle situations that once seemed confusing.
- You respond to change without getting overwhelmed.
- You live as you were truly designed to without losing yourself.
How to gain clarity and find your purpose:
- Ask yourself: What do I want most in my life today? Next year? Over the next decade? This may be a little challenging to answer right away. If it is, try writing. Don’t overthink it, just pick up a pen and start writing about the things that make you happy, the things you dreamed about as a kid, the things you would do today if you won the lottery. If writing isn’t your thing, talk it out with someone. Find someone who has clarity on their life and is happy. If you don’t know anyone who fits the bill, try a life-coach.
- Visualize in full detail what it is that you want. What do you need to do? Who do you need to be? How will it feel when you get there? Paint a vivid picture in your mind. When you can see it “clearly,” you will automatically begin to lean into it.
- Look inside for answers. They are in you if you can get quiet enough to hear them. Have faith in your inner wisdom. You are in control of you and no one else. If you’re second-guessing yourself, take a closer look at what limiting beliefs you have. Limiting beliefs are the ones that start with “I can’t,” “I should/not,” “It’s not possible,” etc. Not all limiting beliefs are harmful, but decide which ones are based in reality and which ones come from a place of fear. If they are fear-based, they probably aren’t serving you. Learn how to overcome them.
- Set your goals. Set a simple goal to get the wheels turning. Smaller is bigger here. Don’t try to save the earth single-handedly or aspire to make $1M by next month. All you’ve done is set yourself up for failure and disappointment. Set yourself up for success by making goals attainable.
Know what your roadblocks are and come up with a strategy to overcome them. In short, eliminate excuses. If your goal is to change careers, but you need to obtain training, stop using that as a reason to not pursue change. Devise a plan that you can continue to work while learning or find alternative ways to fund your life so you can give 100% to the mission.
If you’re looking to get in shape to avoid a health crisis and you know you never get past the 4-week mark on any diet or exercise plan, come up with a plan to carry you from week 3-6 and beyond. Get a workout buddy, work with a dietician and a trainer, or try a health and wellness coach.
- Try meditation: Science proves that mindfulness has significant benefits. It helps gain clarity because it allows you to understand the thoughts that are interfering with positivity and also to create positive thinking patterns. If you’ve never meditated before, here’s a simple way to get started: A Beginners Guide to Meditation for Wellness.
When you have clarity and purpose, you DON’T:
- Live in the past
- Runaway from commitment
- Quit because things didn’t go the way you thought they would
- Get sidetracked by things that are unrelated to your goal
- Spend too much of your time and energy trying to make others happy
Living with clarity and purpose:
Without them, you can not live a truly happy and fulfilling life. They are the driving forces behind anyone who has created a life they love and has reached their full potential. They challenge you to commit to do and be better. Benjamin Hardy, Ph.D
If you want to break bad habits or create good ones, start a new project, or make a significant life change if you don’t know exactly what you want, how can you get it?
Creating a life you love is a choice, and no one can do it for you. However, you don’t have to do it alone. Life-coaches are trained professionals who are skilled at helping their clients gain the clarity they seek so that they can live on purpose.