What are clarity and focus?
Life is often complicated. There isn’t any “one-size-fits-all” definition for what being clear or having focus means. For some, it is knowing exactly what you want to be when you grow up. Or, it might be knowing the type of person you will spend your life with. It could also be making it through a challenging experience and seeing the whole situation with a fresh and more mature perspective.
When you DON’T have clarity and are living off-purpose, you are swimming upstream, running against the wind, and pitting yourself against yourself. It is impossible to get from where you are to where you want to be if you don’t have a clear vision.
You hate your job, but you stay because it pays well. You are miserable at work and routinely come home stressed. The most important relationships you have are affected. Why? Because you compromise so much of yourself during the workday, you have nothing left to give. Maybe you find comfort in a cocktail or two, or something to eat that affects your health and saps your energy. You wake up wishing you could get a root-canal instead of going back to work. You’re stuck, and you know it, but you don’t know how to get unstuck.
It does not have to be this way. Even if you don’t know how to gain clarity and find purpose today, it does not mean it will always be that way.
Why is having focus necessary?
When you have focus, you know how to answer these questions:
- How can I find my purpose?
- What is the first thing I need to do? Next?
- If things don’t go as planned, how will I bounce back?
When you gain clarity and find purpose, you:
- Create a vision and set the right goals.
- Have a deep understanding of your values and priorities. Therefore, decisions come quickly to you.
- Feel more fulfilled in your relationships, in your career, and your social life.
- Learn to trust your instincts, and intuitively will know how to handle situations that once seemed confusing.
- Respond to change without getting overwhelmed.
- Live on purpose without losing yourself.
How to gain clarity and find your purpose:
What do I want most in my life today? Next year? Over the next decade? This may be challenging to answer right away. If it is, try writing. Don’t overthink it, just pick up a pen and start writing about the things that make you happy. Think about the things you dreamed about as a kid. In that same manner, write about the things you would do today if you won the lottery. However, if writing isn’t your thing, don’t stress on it. If that is the case, try talking it out with someone. Ideally, find someone who has clarity and focus in their life and is happy. If you don’t know anyone who fits the bill, try a life-coach.
Visualize in full detail what it is that you want.
Find focus by painting a vivid picture in your mind. Neuro-Linguistic (NLP) Coaches recommend engaging as many senses as you can to make your vision impactful. Imagine the sounds of praise you may hear, the taste of champagne when you are celebrating, or the smell of fresh paint in your new office. Take a few moments to feel like you are already successful. Feel it deep in your bones. After that, take a moment to get a general idea of what you need to do. Then, characterize who you need to be to do those things. As a result, when you begin to see it “clearly,” you will automatically start to lean into it.
Look inside for answers.
Quiet down to gain clarity and find purpose. Believe it or not, the answers that you seek are inside of you already. In other words, have faith in your inner wisdom. You are in control of you and no one else. In the event that you are second-guessing yourself, take a closer look at what limiting beliefs you have. Limiting beliefs are the ones that start with “I can’t,” “I should/not,” “It’s not possible,” etc. Not all limiting beliefs are harmful, but decide which ones are serving your highest good and which ones are not.
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Set your goals SMALL
Smaller is bigger here. Set a simple goal to get the wheels turning. Don’t try to save the earth single-handedly or aspire to make $1M by next month. As noble as they are, all you’ve done is set yourself up for failure and disappointment. Instead, you want to set yourself up for success by making goals attainable.
Know what your roadblocks are and come up with a strategy to overcome them. In short, eliminate excuses. If your goal is to change careers, but you need to obtain training, stop using that to not pursue change. Instead, devise a plan that you can continue to work while learning or find alternative ways to fund your life so you can give 100% to the mission.
On the other hand, maybe you are looking to get in shape to avoid a health crisis. Perhaps you are someone who has never made it past the 4-week mark on any diet or exercise plan in the past. As a result, you have lied to yourself and believe you never will. Instead of giving up, come up with a plan to carry you from week 3-6 and beyond. Get a workout buddy, work with a dietician and a trainer, or try a health and wellness coach.
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Science proves that mindfulness has significant benefits. It is a super-power when looking to gain clarity and find purpose. Meditation allows you to understand “hear” the answers that are solutions. Equally important, you will become aware of the thoughts that are interfering with positivity. Whenever you gain that feedback, you can begin to replace negativity with positive thinking patterns. If you’ve never meditated before, you may enjoy: A Beginners Guide to Meditation for Wellness.
When you gain clarity and find purpose, you DON’T:
- Live in the past
- Runaway from commitment
- Quit because things did not go the way you thought they would
- Get sidetracked by things that are unrelated to your goal.
- Spend a lions share of your time and energy trying to make others happy
Gain clarity and find purpose to live better!
Without them, you cannot live a truly happy and fulfilling life. They are the driving forces behind anyone who has created a life they love and has reached their full potential. Challenge yourself to commit “to do” and “to be” better. (Benjamin Hardy, Ph.D.)
Creating a life you love is a choice, and no one can do it for you. However, you don’t have to do it alone. Life-coaches are trained professionals who are skilled at helping their clients gain the clarity they seek so that they can live on purpose.