Get clear on what you want to accomplish and how you will know when you are successful. If you don’t have specific goals, a life coach can help you gain clarity. You can’t get to where you want to be if you don’t know where it is, or if you only know what you don’t want. That’s like getting in a taxi and telling the driver you don’t want to go downtown without telling him where you want to be taken. Knowing where you do want to go will make your efforts most productive and efficient.
Consider the cost of doing nothing, making mistakes, or trying but failing. What is at stake if you don’t act? Life coaching will be an investment of time, money, and energy. If you knew you were going to succeed, what is the value of your success? Your results will correlate with your commitment to the process: the more you put in, the more you’ll get out. Every person is different and has different goals, but the average person who uses a coach has 2-4 coaching sessions per month for about 2-3 months. Some life coaches expect commitment up front, others are willing to take things incremental.
There is no one-size fits all approach, for life coaches or clients. Many life coaches offer structured programs to reach your goals, while others base their life coaching specifically to your needs. Both modalities are highly successful. The most important thing is the rapport and synergy between you and your life coach. We recommend that you talk to 3 coaches to decide which is your best fit. Trust yourself in picking the approach that works for you.
99% of people who have used a coach are satisfied with the experience.
Many report improved confidence & happiness, better relationships, time management & communication skills, or run more efficient and profitable businesses.
Most life coaches have personal success in the niche they life coach. It is acceptable to ask a life coach for references. However, coaching is such a confidential relationship that sometimes clients wish to remain anonymous, even if they have experienced the types of results you are looking for. No two clients will experience a life coach in the same way. Most life coaches offer a complimentary consultation, be clear on what you need to know and ask questions. You are interviewing each other to see if you’re a match.
Find a life coach who has what you want. If you want to overcome limiting beliefs and gain self-esteem, find a life coach who exudes confidence and positive thinking. If your goal is to start your own business, find a life coach who has started one or more. No one can give something they haven’t got, so finding a life coach who lives in line with their aspirations increases your chances exponentially of living in line with yours. I personally need to know that a life coach has experienced what I’m looking to achieve, or something very similar. Living authentically is one of the most common goals of both life coaches and clients.
Generally, life coaches do not dole out advice. What most masterful life coaches do is ask powerful probing questions so that you can discover your own best course. There are times life coaches will share their personal experiences and may make suggestions if you are completely stuck, but the train of thought is that “you are whole, capable, and possess inner wisdom that will serve you best”. The goal is for the coach to help you make the best choices.
You are going to spend a considerable amount of time with your life coach and likely explore some deeply personal thoughts and feelings. You need to know that there is a safe space to share openly and confidently. The more open and authentic you can be, the more you will get out of the relationship This is where the most amazing shifts often happen. By far, the most important aspect of the life coaching process is the rapport. If you do not feel that you have that, you should seriously consider finding someone else. We also suggest you work with a coach who is certified by an accrediting body so that you are confident of their skill and ethic.
Trust yourself. Slow down enough to listen to your own inner wisdom, (take a couple of long deep breaths 😉). What is your heart saying? Listen to it. Know the difference between nervous excitement about trying something new and internal cues that this is not a good fit. Hiring the best life coach is an important decision. This is your life and you want the best support system to make it the all that it can be!!!
I hope the answer to this is always yes. Life coaches know the value the life coaching process and that any success they can achieve on their own in increased tremendously when working with a life coach. We all have opportunities to evolve. You want a life coach that has humility and strives to be better tomorrow than they are today.
Coaching and counseling are similar in that having the right chemistry and rapport with either professional is crucial to successful meeting your goals. Both are trained in getting their clients to look inward and both hold whatever is said in the strictest of confidence.
Counseling tends to be “problem” centered. We all have times in life when we need to “fix” something that appears broken or we need to HEAL from a painful experience. Counselors and therapists usually ask “WHY?” (something happened or felt that way). They are licensed by the state they practice in to investigate and diagnose the underlying causes of mental health problems. They are expected to give advice and often work in tandem with medical professionals who may prescribe medication. Life coaches are not (unless specified) qualified to diagnose or treat any health-related problems, and there may be situations that they do suggest you see a licensed therapist
Life coaching is very “goal” centered. It focuses on what’s happening (or not) in the now aims to accomplish future wants and desires. Coaching clients are looking to improve their life and have a better future; they are whole in the now and are looking to break through limits and succeed like never before. Coaches ask “HOW?” (to get from here to there). There may times when things that happened in the past cause limitations to moving forward and a coach can help you move through those limiting thoughts, but their focus is to help you develop tools to keep moving forward. Coaches may share personal experiences or thoughts, but they do not generally give advice. Instead, they help their clients to uncover their own wisdom and come up with their own best solutions.
Have you ever noticed that every award winner opens their acceptance speech by thanking others? Sometimes they thank so many people, there’s hardly any time left to talk about what they accomplished. Know why? Greatness never happens alone!! People who have amazing lives are always working to improve their lives and they work with professionals to help them continually reach the next level.
Let’s be clear…. No one NEEDS coaching. Coaching is only for people who WANT it! Those who are success driven, who are constantly trying to improve their life, who strive to create their ideal life, who recognize that it requires perseverance and diligence, who value and appreciate the guidance and support offered by mentors or coaches are they type of people who hire coaches. In short, coaching works best for those who recognize there is a gap between where they are today and where they want to be tomorrow.
You want to spend great amounts of time discussing the problem and not the solution.
You want someone to just tell you what to do.
You are not willing to do the heavy lifting between sessions. Collaborating with a life coach is only the first step, the results happen when you hang up the phone and get busy.
There are some situations where a counselor really is the better professional to help you. If you are struggling with any type of medical diagnosis or mental illness, you should at least seek professional help in addition to a coach if not before.
Every great coach has a great coach. When do they hire coaches? Here are the times great coaches will work with their coaches and we suggest you do too:
1. You wonder “How do I make this happen?”
You have a goal. You’ve either tried and didn’t get there; started with excitement and enthusiasm, only to peter-out half way through; or you simply do not know where to start. Whether you want to lose a few pounds, find the love of your life, make a total career switch, or build the business of your dreams, a great coach can help you overcome obstacles, strategize next steps, keep you accountable and motivated, and support you while you create your dream.
2. You realize “Nothing is happening”
You’re simply stuck. Nothing is working and you’re just out of ideas. A coach can help you uncover why you’re stuck, form a collaborative think-tank with you, and reenergize your plans to start moving forward Maybe a new perspective will cause a total paradigm shift.
3. You’re thinking “What the heck is happening?”
Sometimes in life things are beyond our control and nothing seems go right or make sense. Sometimes the root is our own belief systems, others it is because we have changed while than others haven’t, or have we just changed differently. Having an objective coach can help to quickly identify any beliefs that are running in the background and raise your conscious awareness and making moving forward virtually effortless.
4. You’re so excited “Something wonderful happened”
You started a new business, got promoted, married or had a baby, suddenly you don’t recognize your life anymore because life as you knew it no longer exists. Change, even when it is fantastic, can throw us off center. So many unexpected things come with change, even good ones. Your coach can help you navigate this new beginning and support you in transition.
5. You’re in a good place but “Now what happens?”
Maybe you’ve just overcome a major obstacle and are out of the weeds so to speak. Now what? Things are GOOD but you want GREAT. You’re closer than you think! A great coach will help you figure out when your next steps can be. They will help you create that amazing life you’ve been dreaming about and support you through exciting elements that may a little scary but in the most wonderful way
6. You’re not feeling up to par “Something Terrible happened”
Life is not always kind. Loved ones pass away, relationships end in heart-break, healthy people succumb to illness, jobs are lost…. It can just really stink sometimes. I am so sorry if this is you. Having a strong support system is so important when life takes a turn. Its not always easy to turn to friends in these situations and having someone who allows it to be “all about you” by offering you their undivided attention and compassion allows you to process in a confidential and safe place. There are no shortcuts through the grieving process, but a good coach can help you find the path back to living happily, and lighten the sadness and despair.
Ultimately, you are embarking on a life-changing experience if you are open-minded and willing to try new things. A coach will improve your self-awareness, help you stay focused, and access your greatest talents while keeping you motivated to go the distance. You might be able to do this on your own if you are super-disciplined and ambitious, but you can do it so much quicker with motivation and accountability behind you.
There are still some people who strongly believe that a face to face presence is necessary for coaching to be effective. However, most are finding that coaching on the telephone or online video is equally as effective but significantly more convenient and cost effective. The most critical element between a coach and a client is the rapport. Believing that your coach truly understands you and feeling confident that they can help you bridge the gap between where you are now and where you want to be is what really matters. The best coach may be in a different state and can serve you more powerfully than the one who lives next door!
Finding 3 coaches in your local area, setting up face to face appointments, can be arduous and time consuming. When you fill out our questionnaire, we match you with the best coaches who then contact you. All of our coaches have agreed to have a complimentary consultation with you to answer your questions and mutually agree if the fit is right.
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