What are the steps to success? First, it depends on what your definition of success is. Is it getting rich? Finding the love of your life? Reaching a goal? There are many definitions of the word, but the one common theme is clearly defining what it is you want and then being proactive to get it.
Here are 5 essential steps to find success:
Be True to Yourself
Whatever your goals are make sure they are in line with your values and not someone else’s. Ask yourself what do you truly want? Pay attention to your inner self and notice if you start telling yourself you “should” or “shouldn’t” want something. That’s a red flag that it’s someone else’s goal and not yours.
As you explore possibilities of what you really want, notice your self-talk. Are you telling yourself you can’t do it or it’s not possible? Question the validity of those beliefs. Are they true and do they serve you? Or are the self-limiting beliefs based on fear or lack of confidence that are getting in the way of pursuing your own happiness.
Don’t be afraid to go outside the norm. Someone had to assemble the first rock-band. If they didn’t, we’d still be listening to classical music. People thought Bill Gates and Steve Jobs were both crazy and they have revolutionized how the world lives. You may be nervous about your ideas but meet your fear with confidence and courage and you’ll be amazed at what unfolds once you start.
Create a vision
Think about all areas of your life. For most people, the list includes things such as family, career, health, personal growth, spirituality, and finances. Think about where you’d like to be in all areas of life a year from today.
Having a vision is only the start. A vision means nothing if not followed by action. Too many people focus on the end-goal without giving serious thought about what they need to do and who they need to be to get there.
For each part of your life, set one meaningful goal that will have the greatest impact. Prioritize which goals are most important to you. If your goals are set for one year, think about what needs to happen in one month to get there. Then break down what needs to happen in one week to achieve your monthly goals. The words best goal setting modal is the SMART goal strategy. The more specific your goals and strategy are the greater your chances of success are.
One of the most critical parts of staying motivated through the ups and downs of everyday life is remembering WHY you want something. Reaching the goal itself is not what you’re really after, it’s the impact that it will have on your life that is what you are really chasing.
As you plan your day (s), make goal oriented decisions. There is no single action that will have a profound effect finding success. Success comes from hundreds of tiny actions, repeated consistently over time. Learn how to be selfish with your time. Figure out how to eliminate distractions and accept that there will be times when you just have to say “no” to others so that you can stay focused. Ask yourself what you are willing to sacrifice to actualize your dream and learn how to ask for help and delegate tasks when needed.
Focus on your strengths. One mistake many people make is spending too much time trying to improve on their weaknesses. Find someone who is strong where you are weak and get better at what you are naturally good at. It’s far sweeter to be great at one thing than mediocre at five.
Be ready to deal with change
The road to success is not lined with unicorns and cotton-candy. Things are not going to go according to your plan. Don’t let the unexpected knock you down or deflate your enthusiasm, just deal with it. As we are all acutely aware, the world is in constant flux and there is so little we can do about it. The only part we can control is our responses to each circumstance. Persevere and be resilient and adaptive. Whenever there is a problem, a solution exists somewhere. Learn how to find solutions. Turn problems into games and you’ll relieve yourself of unnecessary stress and angst. Believe that some of the best things come from some of the worst things and look for the positives.
If it feels like failure, look at it as a learning opportunity. No one is wildly successful on their first attempt at anything. Learn, adjust, and carry on. If you can’t figure out what went wrong or what the next step is, ask someone who has been successful.
Stay open-minded and ask for help!
Sometimes it’s hard to know when to stick with a plan or to change your strategy and try something else. The key is to be deeply honest with yourself and ask yourself empowering questions.
Here are a few examples:
Is there another way to look at this?
Is there a better way to do this?
Am I afraid? If so, what of? How can I overcome it?
What did I learn? How will I adjust?
When you deepen your understanding of what is happening you can invest your energy in what is working avoid burnout.
Don’t go it alone! No one gets a gold medal for doing things all by themselves and most people who are successful have teams of people that have helped them get there. Try to surround yourself with positive minded people. Look for people who have what you want and find out how they got there. Sometimes friends and family mean well, but even if they are well-intentioned, they aren’t always the best allies for us to move forward.
You’ll go much further when you collaborate with others and here’s why: You’ll likely have different strengths and weaknesses and can fill in for each other. Someone who is objective is better able to see your “blind spots” and help you gain a fresh perspective on things. They’ll help you brainstorm ways to overcome obstacles and they are able to hold you accountable. Just having someone who knows you and what you want to achieve is powerful because you can’t make excuses. These are the things that life-coaches are professionals at doing.
What is your top goal right now? What is your plan? Can you get there on your own? Time and repetition are the key. Every small step today eventually becomes something massive in the future.