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Powerful Tips for Making Hard Decisions

Career & Business, Health & Wellness, Life Coach Library

Have you ever heard of analysis paralysis? It’s when one is so afraid of making the wrong choice that they overthink and overcomplicate something. They get stuck in limbo while the issue at hand seems to grow bigger and bigger. Some get stuck for hours, others for days or weeks!

But it doesn’t have to be that way! Below are some tips to make the process much quicker and far less mind boggling. Not every strategy will work for every situation but choose the ones that apply to you and see how much easier it is to get off the fence.

Give yourself time to think it through and get clear about what you really want

For small but important decisions, give yourself about 30 minutes to de-stress, and think through several options. For more epic decisions, it’s better to give yourself hours or even days to weight out the repercussions of your choices, and then the repercussions of them.

Research proves that stress can often destroy the ability to make great decisions. Being under pressure can kick in the fight or flight response and no one makes their best choices when they feel desperate. There isn’t enough time to think about the unintended consequences that should be factored in when making a choice.

Spend time thinking about what you really want, and why. A great strategy is to ask oneself what they want, and the what do you want as a result of that. There is no limit to how deep you can take this. Finding what is called the meta- outcome will reveal your deeper values and make coming to a decision easier. Sometimes there’s a much easier way to get to the ultimate desired outcome.

Think through your options. Are there other ways of reaching your goal?

Sometimes we do what we’ve always done simply because we’ve always done it that way. Deep down we know there is a better way, but we just don’t know what it is. When we slow down, we can see alternatives and compromises that we couldn’t in the heat of the moment. While doing something is better than doing nothing about 90% of the time, there are times when it is better to not take action at all. Consider what the outcomes will be if you do nothing at all.

Are you doing what you really WANT or what are you simply SUPPOSED TO?

Once you identify what you really want, listen to your inner “voice” and make sure you are doing what’s best for you! Sometimes we unconsciously try to please others, such as a boss, parent, or spouse, that we do something purely out of obligation. While well intentioned, making decisions based on someone else’s values is generally does not serve us.

Don’t be afraid to make a mistake

There is no such thing as a mistake if you learn from it. The fear of making a mistake can be crippling. Learning to appreciate mistakes will give you inspiration to try step out of your comfort zone and try new things.

  • Ask yourself” what is the worst-case scenario?”. Is anything ever really catastrophic? Who do you know who made mistakes before achieving success? What mistakes have you not only recovered from but thrived after?
  • Don’t attach to outcomes. Whatever you decide to do, have a playful attitude towards it. Have a sense of humor. There is an element of risk in anything we do to pursue success. Look to see how stumbling blocks spark change and growth.

Talk it through and if needed, ask for perspective

Sometimes we just need to talk-it-out with someone who is detached and will allow us the space to explore. Simply hearing ourselves “think out loud” often reveals the answers we seek. At the end of the day, the decision is yours but there are times when feedback is helpful. Just remember to be true to yourself and your values.

Wendy Cope
Recovery and Personal-Growth Coach www.healthytothecore.net

Just Be You

Life Coach Library, Personal Growth & Spirituality, Uncategorized

The Biggest, Best, & Easiest Secret for Business & Branding for Solopreneurs, Artists & Creatives

The easiest way to be authentic is to just be *YOU* and *ALL-YOU*! Yep, this is the fast track to winning the game of success in life and business. The more we can tap into who we are, the more we can let our inner lights shine for all the world to see.

It is no secret and it’s the easiest thing to do once you open yourself up to it. The more you can bring YOU to the table, the more your life and business will explode.

I am sure that we have all heard the term ‘being authentic’ when it comes to marketing and branding, but really it all boils down to being who we are. We all came unto this earth with our own uniqueness, which is the whole point! We are supposed to be who we are and share our unique offerings with the world.

The picture used in this article is a perfect example. That was me being me and writing out those words, and my friend was being herself holding up the card in the sun with her own hands. This is an example of just being yourself and weaving it into your work.

We are all artists! We are all creators! We are all expressions of creativity! When we allow ourselves the freedom to be who we are and to express ourselves, it blows the lid off! Being YOU will take your life and your business to explosive levels and will unleash even more.

There is a freedom in being yourself. It is tantalizing in fact!

One of the keys to being and accepting who you are is to look at your past as the gift that it is! All of the experiences that you have had have made you who you are today! Personally, I do not look at my past in a negative way. I see all of the experiences as the stepping stones and the contrast that I needed to show me what I DO want in my life and work, and to get me to this point today.

Try to actively bring YOU into the art of your life and work. This can actually get to be a lot of fun and once again awakens the childlike wonder in ourselves and the way we look at the world.

Your potential clients or customers will resonate more with you when you are being YOU because everyone at their core, just wants the freedom and self- confidence to be who THEY are.

The world needs more of us being who we are right now. There has a never been a better time to let your soul shine and to share it with the world. One by one, we all make a unique difference and it all counts.

Maggie Holbik, CLC, CHN, NNCP, RNT
Certified Life & Business Coach
Board Certified Holistic Nutritionist
Natural Nutrition Clinical Practitioner
Registered Nutritional Therapist
Reconnective Healing Practitioner
Lover of Life! 🙂 www.MaggieHolbik.com

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Gratitude for Happiness

Health & Wellness, Life Coach Library, Personal Growth & Spirituality

If you woke up tomorrow, with only what you were thankful for today, what would you have left?

Every November, we kick-off the holiday season with the theme of gratitude. But why wait until November? Common sense tells us that expressions of gratitude can lift the spirit. Research shows that the benefits of gratitude don’t stop there. Here are some of the scientifically proven benefits.

  • Better relationships: More than good manners, it helps to build connections which lead to friendships and other relationships. People who are often thanked by their partners feel more appreciated and thus more positive toward each other.
  • Improved physical health: Experience fewer aches and pains. People who are gracious typically display more willingness/ability to exercise, eat healthfully, and take care of their health.
  • Enhanced mental strength: It can reduce stress; help overcome trauma; reduce aggression; and increase empathy and other prosocial behaviors. A healthy dose of gratitude can overcome toxic emotions such as envy, resentment, guilt, or stress.
  • Elevate one’s self-esteem: A strong sense of self-esteem is essential to optimum performance. When feeling thankful, the amount of effort comparing oneself to others is reduced and leaves greater appreciation for what one has or does.

Students from Harvard Medical School conducted a study with 3 groups. One group wrote about things they were grateful for, a second group wrote about daily irritations or things that had displeased them, and the third wrote about events that had affected without emphasis on them being positive or negative. After 10 weeks, those who wrote about gratitude were more optimistic and felt better about their lives. Surprisingly, they also exercised more and had fewer visits to physicians than those who focused on sources of aggravation.

Gratitude is not only a feeling but to many it is an action. For some, the source of that goodness lies within something outside and larger than themselves— whether it is other people, nature, or a higher power. It is a way for people to appreciate what they have instead of always reaching for something new or thinking they “will be happy when……. (something happens) “When you focus on and appreciate what you have instead of what you lack, your mental and emotional states grow stronger.

There are so many ways to cultivate an attitude of gratitude, but below are my top 10 favorites:

  1. Make a list of 50 things that you’d like to have BUT at least 25 of them must be things you WANT and ALREADY HAVE.
  2. Do something nice for someone without out telling anyone.
  3. Abe Lincoln says, “you’re as happy as you make your mind up to be”. I agree. Make a conscious decision to find things you are grateful for throughout the day.
  4. Smile randomly at strangers. You’ll be surprised at how nice it makes you feel, and it will likely make them feel just as good.
  5. Make a deliberate and sincere effort to tell others what they are doing right, and double down if they do something above and beyond what is expected.
  6. Practice forgiveness. Everyone makes mistakes and holding on to resentment is “like drinking poison and expecting them to die from it”. By forgiving, we free ourselves of negative feelings and make room for appreciation and delight.
  7. Thank someone mentally (if you cannot in person). This act creates positive feelings and expands our emotional state.
  8. Appreciate nature and the divinity of life. Stop and wonder how a sunset or a rainbow is so perfectly colorful and beautiful. Hold a baby and embrace its innocence and perfection.
  9. Meditate. There are countless proven benefits of meditation. Setting the intention of feeling grateful will open your consciousness to see the many blessings in your life.
  10. Give thanks in prayer. This does not have to be a religious practice. You can give thanks to any source you are comfortable with, nature, light, or a religious deity.

Wendy Cope

Recovery and Personal-Growth Coach

www.healthytothecore.net

Articles referenced: https://www.health.harvard.edu/healthbeat/giving-thanks-can-make-you-happier https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201504/7- scientifically-proven-benefits-gratitude

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