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Live Your Next Level Life: How You Can Leap to the Next Level with a Life Coach’s Help

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Are you feeling like there has to be more to life? Or you have to be able to do more? Learn how to get that next level life in this post. 

Do you feel like your life is a bit stagnant at the moment? 

Would you like to be able to both recognize and take advantage of the opportunities life has to offer you?  

Sometimes, do you just feel like you need a little bit of a push?  

If you answered any of these questions with a “yes,” then life coaching may help you to get to the next level in your life.  

What’s your life like? If you’re like 70% of people, you might not be fully content with where you are at the moment. Ready to live your next level life with the guidance, encouragement, and honesty that a life coach can provide you with? 

If so, then keep on reading this post to learn more about how a life coach can help your life be as awesome as you’ve always wanted.  

Life Coaching Increases Accountability 

Sure, you’re accountable to your boss, your landlord, and maybe even to a few of your family members and friends.  

But in most cases, these people hold you accountable for the things you’re supposed to do for them. The real question is: Who in your life is holding you accountable for bettering yourself and achieving your dreams?  

If you work with a life coach, you’ll have someone that you have to report to — and get feedback from — when it comes to moving forward in your life. 

You’ll be able to make fewer excuses. You’ll also develop a real-life, actionable plan to make your goals a reality. Above all, you’ll learn the most efficient and even emotionally healthy ways to get what you want.  

You’ll Develop an Actionable Plan 

If you want to live your next level life, then you need to find a way to turn your dreams into reality.  

Sure, being a dreamer is wonderful. It’s one of the ways that we as people can remain optimistic, even in tough times. But eventually, you have to stop dreaming and work to make things happen.  

You can’t just “wait” for good luck and opportunities to come to you. When you choose to work with a life coach, you’ll learn how to find them for yourself.  

You and your coach will create an achievable, step-by-step action plan for turning your life around. You’ll research education programs together, look for new employment opportunities, and even talk about your dating life.  

In short? 

Whatever you want to improve in your life, you’ll need a map to get there. A life coach helps you to draw that map. Most importantly, they can also prepare you for the obstacles and setbacks that you’ll likely face along the way.  

You’ll Address Your Anxieties 

Think about the top things that you feel like hold you back in life. In other words, what’s preventing you from living your next level life?  

Is it the opinions of others? Is it your current living and financial situation? Is it the professional qualifications you possess, your work environment, or even your current mental health?  

Now, think about how much more you would be able to accomplish if these stressors and anxieties were absent from your life. Think about how much happier you’d be. In some cases, this might mean you have more time to spend on things you actually enjoy doing.  

Your life could change for the better. You just have to take that first step. 

What if you could develop real-world coping mechanisms? What if you could figure out which of these stressors you’re in control of, and which ones are worth changing?  

Life coaching helps you to do just that.  

In addition to identifying — and discussing the reasons for — some of your biggest fears, you’ll also learn how to better manage them.  

You’ll be surprised at what you can accomplish when you’re not standing in your own way.  

You’ll Develop Self-Confidence 

An astounding 85% of people currently struggle with low self-confidence.  

If you’re among them, then you know firsthand just how much your lack of an ability to believe in yourself can get in your way.  

Maybe you have amazing ideas that would improve the lives of others, but feel like you’re not “qualified” enough to share them. Maybe you have imposter syndrome and feel like you’re not “worthy” of the life you’ve been given.  

Perhaps you just live in constant fear of rejection. You feel like it’s just easier to avoid seeking new opportunities, because that way, you’ll be able to avoid feelings of failure.  

The truth is that a lack of self-confidence doesn’t just hurt you. It also deprives the people around you of wonderful, helpful ideas that could also make their lives easier and happier.  

Working with a life coach is an awesome way for you to remind yourself of what you’re capable of. You’ll recognize your talents, learn to advocate for yourself, and finally start taking risks again.  

Are You Ready to Live Your Next Level Life? 

We hope that this post has shown you how you can make your dream next level life a reality through life coaching.  

Whether you want to advance personally, professionally, or even physically, having someone to help encourage and support you can make all the difference.  

Are ready to connect with a life coach who will inspire you to grow — and to dream even bigger?  

If so, then learn more about the extraordinary life coaches we can connect you with. Don’t waste one more day not reaching your full potential. Instead, reach out to us to find a coach and level up in life. 

Author | WENDY COPE 

About: 

I was a rebellious teenager and at the age of 20 found myself in a recovery program for drug and alcohol addiction. That was 30 years ago and I have been passionate about the pursuit of personal-growth ever since. At one point in my recovery, I felt really “stuck” and need to do something different. That was my first encounter with coaching. I completed a 12-week program and the changes I experienced were profound. Like more than 5 years of therapy profound. 

That triggered a deep passion and desire to help others. Anyone can get “stuck” at some time in their lives. I work with people of all walk of life although my area of expertise is the recovery community. Helping people get “un-stuck” brings me deep satisfaction. I felt inspired to create a platform that serves both coaches and clients and that’s how Life Coach Library evolved. Educating people and getting the message to them that they CAN reach their goals while providing a practical means for great coaches to grow their business is what Life Coach Library is all about. 
 

Education: 

I hold a bachelor’s degree from Hawaii Pacific University in Justice Administration and have 25 graduate level credits in professional counseling from Walden University. Later in my career, I completed a career switcher program and hold a professional teacher’s license in Virginia, Delaware, and Maryland. Additionally, I am a certified hypnotherapist and reiki master. I am presently training with the Coach Training Alliance and while I will complete this module in February 2019, I am committed to personal-growth and life-long learning in the coaching profession.

What’s at Stake?

Health & Wellness, Life Coach Library, Personal Growth & Spirituality

Intuitively, many of us know the changes (or at least some of them), that we must make in order to get to where we want to be. Yet despite this, we still struggle to make those changes. We get caught up in the other matters of our lives. we lose sight of our goals, dreams, and aspirations. we get caught up in the machinations of our daily lives and inevitably stop pursuing them entirely.

So what gives? For starters, we need to make an obvious observation. Change can be uncomfortable. It usually is, particularly if it is a transformative change (Changing a habit for example). YET THESE ARE ALWAYS THE BEST CHANGES TO MAKE and still, we don’t make them.

Let’s make this real for you.

Let’s get in touch with YOUR reality:

What’s at Stake for you? If you don’t make this change, if you don’t take action, What’s at Stake for you? Let’s take into consideration both extrinsic and intrinsic consequences of not making that change.

Extrinsic: Is it a life half-lived? A horrible career or vocation? Is it a broken friendship/relationship or marriage? Is it poor physical or mental health? A potentially bad financial situation? A once in a lifetime opportunity missed out on?

Intrinsic: How do I feel about this now? How am I going to feel about this later? What Value does this have for me?

Hypothetically Speaking, if you were to continue down this path on Auto Pilot, changing absolutely nothing, what would your life look like:

  • Next Year
  • Three Years From Now
  • Five Years From Now

Are you happy with this? Are you being true to the God-given talents and gifts that were bestowed to you?

Before I became a Life Coach, I was a personal trainer for over 7 years. Exercise, particularly martial arts, changed my life profoundly. However, I never quite got to the level that I really wanted to be with my body. I kept trying to “work harder.” At one point I had a routine where I would workout at least 2 hours a day, 5 days a week doing high intensity interval training combined with Kung-Fu AND Kickboxing. I was exhausted on those days. My body would feel destroyed. I was overtraining, Working way too hard. Trying to lose weight I would “eat less” but “more often”, and then I would have “cheat meals” on the weekend. I never got to my ideal weight or had the body I wanted to. Yet I was exhausted. I kept depriving myself so much that on the weekend I would PIG OUT and ruin all that hard work from the entire week. I stayed in that cycle for about 3 years, always trying the same thing. I had more up and downs than I can count.

During this time, I was also trying to grow my coaching practice. The beautiful thing about coaching is that it requires ongoing personal growth. I decided to prioritize growing my coaching practice, so I had to put aside doing 2-3 hours of exercise every day for a while. But I knew that something had to change, otherwise I would just keep gaining weight or at best, stay the same. I changed my nutrition. I updated my system. I tried the Ketogenic Diet. In one month, I lost almost 20 pounds and I was working out half the amount of time, all while eating foods that I loved but was scared to eat: Bacon, Cheese, sour cream, etc. (in a varied plan with eggs, greens, and other lean meats and fish like chicken and salmon). Later, I transitioned to a cyclical version of this lifestyle (5 days on/two days off) and I have kept the weight off. More than just that: I don’t have high and low energy spikes anymore. I have more energy every moment of every day, I don’t get tired in the afternoon, and I never feel that starving feeling if I didn’t eat for a couple hours.

Here’s some great information on this Lifestyle: https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/ketogenic-diet-101

This is the part that really will rock your world!

I invite you to take the time to slow down and just think, write it down, journal it, whatever it takes to make it real. Ask yourself just this one question: If I don’t make this change, what is truly at stake?

…But wait Mauro!!! I already made this change and I am still not where I want to be.

Know this: If you have made the change, if you have been pursuing this path that you have set out for yourself, expect that there will be ups and downs. You may experience periods of tremendous growth and then suddenly, a hit a plateau, maybe even a sudden drop. There may be yet another rise and then another drop. That’s part of the journey. That’s what makes it exciting because it is in some ways the unknown. The unknown can be scary, or it can be thrilling. The best part of all of this is YOU get to choose what label you place on that. You get to choose whether it is fear or excitement. Every day brings forth a new opportunity for growth and change.

So here are some more powerful questions to ask yourself:

  • What systems and practices can you implement that will take you to the next level in your plan?
  • What do you need to do?
  • Who do you need to be?
  • Where can you find support and from whom?
  • Is the change you need to make deeper than this? Do you need to change so that you can change?

as defined by Merriam Webster, change in perhaps its purest and simplest sense is “to make different in some particular way.” The change you may need to make may or may not even have any physical manifestation in the onset but inevitably, it always will at some point.

“Being Defeated is often a temporary condition. Giving up is what makes it permanent.” -Marilyn vos Savant Blessings, Mauro Schiavo

Helpful Resources:

An Evening with Robert Kegan and Immunity to Change: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FFYnVmGu9ZI

How to Overcome Procrastination | Brian Tracy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UPcLkAqS_GE&t=123s

“Drive” by Daniel Pink “Time Warrior” by Steven Chandler

Bio:

Mauro Schiavo is a Certified Life and Career/Vocation Coach, and founder of Mauro’s Max Lifestyle He seeks to bring people’s wildest dreams into reality. As a child he was obese and often felt like an outcast. In his teenage years he made a bold decision to change his life. he trained for 9 years and obtained his black belt in Kung-Fu and Kickboxing. After graduating from Florida International University with his bachelors in Sports and Fitness Studies he became a personal trainer and started his own mobile personal training business. throughout this time, he was coached, not just in martial arts, but in every area of his life. This led to an insight much later during his own certification course in coaching from Fowler International Academy of Professional Coaching. This changed his life immensely and he decided to bring that change to the rest of the world.

By Mauro Schiavo https://www.maurosmaxlifestyle.com/

Is it Time to Transform Your Career?

Career & Business, Life Coach Library

Stuck, frustrated, and unfulfilled with your career? Pay attention to the signs. It might be time to transform your career. I’ve been there and transforming my career was the best thing I could have done. Make no mistake. Transforming a career is not an overnight job. It takes courage,
perseverance and hard work but it can be life changing.

Healthcare administration had been my career for 25+ years. The majority of those years, I worked closely with physicians and their teams in the ambulatory setting. I was challenged, happy and fulfilled, and I knew I was making a difference. I experienced, first hand, the care and concern shown to patients by the healthcare team. I felt a deep responsibility to the healthcare providers to make sure they were well supported, their issues addressed, and they had the proper resources. About two years ago, I decided it was time to make a change. With the direction my organization was taking, I knew it was time to move on with my career. When I no longer felt as though I was making a difference, and no longer fulfilled, I recognized it was time to make a change.

As I pondered what was next for me, I took a long, hard look at what would need to change with my career. I wanted to build on all the experiences I had while in healthcare. As I looked back at the times I was most fulfilled in my career, it was when I was coaching and mentoring leaders and those aspiring to leadership positions. Nothing was more satisfying than seeing my direct reports advancing their careers. I had an amazing career and was very fortunate to be able to advance to higher levels of responsibility, eventually, achieving a Vice President position. It didn’t take long for me to realize that I would be most fulfilled helping others achieve the same level of success as I did. It was at that point that I made the decision to transform my career from Healthcare Administrator to becoming a professional Life and Leadership Coach. I pursued a second coach training program, became certified and started my own business.

Transitioning from healthcare administrator to being a full-time life and leadership coach required a lot of planning, a significant investment in resources and time, overcoming a few challenges, perseverance and hard work. Making the decision to leave my long-term and familiar healthcare career was not a quick decision or a fast move. My survival mechanism (also known as “ego”), who tries to protect and keep me safe within my comfort zone said, “all you’ve ever really known is how to be a healthcare administrator. Do you really think you will be able support yourself as a coach?” I suspect you know what I am talking about, those nasty little
annoying voices in your head that make you question yourself.

Then, there was the upfront expense. As many of you know, pursuing an advanced education program and starting up a new business is really expensive. I questioned whether I would really see a return on my investment. What I knew for sure, though, was the payback for my
investment was the impact I would make with the clients I supported. Being a professional life and leadership coach is my calling, my higher level purpose, the difference I want to make in the world.

I have an amazing life and an amazing career. I am happy, fulfilled and totally blessed. It is incredibly important to me to make this happen for others. I’d like to share with you my lessons learned so if you are considering transforming your career, you can do so effectively. Author Camilla Sacre-Dallerup in her book, “Reinvent Me,” suggests a few key steps:

 Start with taking a very close look at your current career. What needs to change? What do you need to learn from the situation you are in now? Be honest with yourself. Remember, if we keep doing the same thing, we will get the same result. Recognizing what needs to change may be the most challenging step on your transformation journey. To help you with this first step, consider answering the following questions:

  • What would I like to reinvent about my career?
  • How is it going to make me feel once I have done it?
  • If money was not an issue, would my answer to the first question be the same or different? If different, how?
  • How will this new career bring me the fulfillment I am looking for?

Don’t get stuck on what you may perceive as barriers to your success. I’m too old to start a new career. I’ve always been in this field, how could I possibly be successful in a new one? I’m afraid of failing. Simply silence your survival mechanism and know you were meant for so much more. If you are burned out, frustrated and unfulfilled in your current role, recognize these are signs that it is time to transform your career. You know, deep within you, that you can make a difference in the world with your gifts and talents so make the effort to take the necessary steps now.

Put your goals in writing, your unwavering commitment to a better work life. It’s your plan to get from where you are to where you want to be with your career. Break down the goals into achievable parts, action steps, and milestones. Plan for the transformation from a financial perspective. It may take some time before you can actually leave one job to start another but it is definitely possible with proper planning. Sometimes a total career transformation can seem overwhelming. Remember all the times in the past when you’ve accomplished the goals you’ve set for yourself. You can apply this same inner confidence now.

Bring your new career to life. There are many techniques you can use to keep your vision and commitment alive. One particularly effective and beautiful technique I’ve used is a meditation exercise called, “Planting the seeds in the garden of opportunity,” adopted from the book, “Reinvent Me” by author Camilla Sacre-Dallerup. So, are you ready to plant your seed, your goal, in the garden of opportunity and watch it blossom? Put on your gardening gloves and take a walk with me.

  • Find a quiet spot, free from distractions.
  • Sit or lie down somewhere comfortable.
  • Close your eyes.
  • Bring your awareness to your breath.
  • Start counting as you breathe in 1, out 2, in 3 and out 4 and so on until you reach 20. Repeat this a few times until you start to feel very relaxed.
  • Now imagine that you are walking into the most beautiful garden you have ever seen. Notice all the trees, the flowers and any other surroundings. This is your garden of opportunity.
  • As you look around the garden and all its beauty, you start to realize it’s all created simply by the seeds that were planted and then nurtured. Consider for a moment that when we plant a seed in the garden, we don’t stand over it and say ‘Grow, grow, hurry up.’ No, we plant it and walk away knowing that it will grow with water, sun and air.
  • Imagine now if your goal can do the same. See yourself holding a seed in your hand that represents your goal/your dream career. Now plant it somewhere in the garden.
  • After you have planted it, sit for a minute and imagine this seed growing and blooming and turning into an amazing flower or tree, just like your goal/your dream career, blossoming and happening.
  • Imagine yourself taking action steps toward making it happen. Notice what it feels like, sounds like and looks like as you imagine doing some of these things.
  • Finally, imagine what it will feel like once you have totally transformed your career. How do you feel? Are you happy, excited, fulfilled? Just notice what you notice without judgement, and then go ahead and open your eyes knowing that you have successfully planted your seed in the garden of opportunity.

Take action. Don’t wait for life to happen to make the changes you know you want to make. Listen to your intuition that has been telling you it’s time to transform your career. Using the meditation example, ‘taking steps of action is like planting lots of seeds. Eventually you will
have a beautiful garden filled with opportunity.’

Be Present, Practice Mindfulness. When you are making significant changes in your life, such as a career transformation, it can be stressful and overwhelming. Be present, in the here and now, practice mindfulness, and think about what you can control in this moment, rather than worrying about all the other things you can’t predict. You can then allow yourself to take it one action step at a time. Practicing mindfulness can also help you reduce stress, increase your focus and direct your mind in a more healthy and positive way. One consistent step after another will get you to your goal, your new career. If your intuition is giving you a strong message that it’s time to make some changes, pay attention. If you plan appropriately, you can successfully transform your career. Don’t let another year go by sacrificing your success, joy and fulfillment. Start planning for your career transformation today.

Robbie K Carlson
Life & Leadership Coach
www.Robbiekcarlson.com

References:

Sacre-Dallerup, C. (2017), “Reinvent Me.”

Mindfulness, An Everyday Guide. Magazine, 2018

Get “unstuck” with Association and Disassociation

Health & Wellness, Life Coach Library, Personal Growth & Spirituality

Written by Wendy Cope, Personal-Growth & Recovery Coach, www.healthytothecore.net

Have you ever noticed when a friend comes to you for advice about a situation it is so easy to offer great ideas and solutions to them, yet, when confronted with our own it is much harder to see clearly and come up with practical answers? The reason is we are generally observers for our friends and when we observe, we can think more rationally. We are disassociated with our friends’ challenges. In our own situations we often become our situations. We feel everything, and we get stuck. We are associated with our own dilemmas.

Disassociation:

When we disassociate with something, we are more detached. We have the ability to observe. It’s like watching ourselves on t.v. or from afar. We only see and hear what is going on. We experience feelings about the situation, but not like the characters we are observing who are feeling the powerful sensations.

Be mindful that disassociation has nothing to do with the mental health diagnosis of “dissociative disorder”. Dissociative disorder is characterized by:

* The splitting off from consciousness, as in amnesia or mental blocking.

* Not remembering or connecting to a feeling as a coping or defense mechanism.

Disassociation in this article means to observe a situation to gain a different perspective and decrease the intensity of negative feelings associated with it, both mentally and physically.

Association:

Association is when we relive an experience. We are in it and see everything around us from that perspective. We feel the feelings in what seems like real time. We have other sensory experiences. What we see, hear, smell, even taste, as if it were happening right now. Association is when we are being the active participant.

Try it….

Think of a time you were very happy, like a graduation. What pictures do you see? Are you watching yourself walking across the stage to get your diploma or are you walking across the stage to get it? Whichever one you answered, try to see it from the alternative perspective. Which one feels more intense? Is it happier? Does it feel different physically? Which feeling would you rather have? If you are like most people, association feels much happier. It is usually more sensory, and physically triggers endorphins that add to the emotional experience.

Now think of something that was disappointing, maybe not getting a job you really wanted. What picture do you see now? Are you watching yourself open the mail and reading some type of notice or are you standing there with the reject notice in front of you? Whichever you answered, try it from the other perspective. Which seems less intense? Is there a difference in how you experience it physically? If you are like most people, disassociation takes the sting out of rejection and makes it easier to look at it logically.

When is it best to be Associated or Disassociated?

Unfortunately, research has found that many people disassociate with happy memories and associate with unpleasant ones. That is backwards!!! When we are thinking of something pleasant, we will view it more positively when we are associated in it. It will create positive thoughts which will make us feel happier. When we feel happier, we physically become healthier. Our heart beat settles and our blood pressure calms. If we take a moment to slow down and experience other sensations, (sounds, smells, sights…) it will enhance the feeling even deeper. This can be a powerful tool when trying to get motivated.

Dissociating from unpleasant memories or experiences decreases the emotional pain, depression, and anxiety that often accompany them. When we become an observer (vs. participant) we can see things from an objective viewpoint, and release emotion attached to an event. In my experience, this release has a positive impact both emotionally and physically as well. I have combined this with other techniques to decrease the intensity such as “dimming the lights” and “lowering the volume” (heck, hit the mute button) and “making the screen smaller and fade out”. These tools are powerful because they decrease or eliminate the sensory connections, which is what the unconscious is more likely to hold on to.

It’s never wise to get stuck in one mode or the other. Pain is not comfortable, but it can be part of an important learning and growth experience. When person gets stuck in disassociated mode, they analyze everything rationally but will not experience a range of emotion and are not better off. They should learn how to associate into their feelings, at least some of the time. When someone is so associated with their pain, they relive it over and over, even if unconsciously, and it becomes problematic. It can increase anxiety, depression, and lead to self-destructive behaviors. They would then benefit from learning how to disassociate from painful experiences.

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Hall, L. M. . NLP Mentor. Retrieved from https://nlp-mentor.com/association-dissociation/

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