It’s nothing personal; research shows that 80% of New Year’s Resolutions are broken and forgotten by February 15th. Why are resolutions so hard to keep? There are a lot of reasons for this ranging from lack of clarity of goals, unrealistic expectations, or, according to some psychologists, the word itself does not program the brain for commitment and motivation, which are vital for success.
It’s true that at the end of December, most of us reflect on the year behind us and look at the new year as a fresh beginning, a chance to make changes. The reality is that May 5th, August 30th, or November 19th are equally as good to create a new beginning and make changes. ANY day you decide to improve something about yourself or your life is a GREAT day to start.
The real question to ponder is not WHEN is a good time to start? But WHY haven’t you done it already? Why haven’t you done what you wanted to? Are you stuck in a dead-end job or relationship? Did you lose 20 pounds and then just give up? WHAT has gotten in-between you and achieving your goals? And, what will be different in this New Year’s resolution?
The usual culprits are:
- Absence of clearly defined and realistic goals
- Unsustainable motivation and commitment
- Limiting-beliefs that lead to procrastination or sabotage success
- Making costly mistakes that deplete time and resources
- Using the SAME thinking to solve a problem that created them
cannot be solved by the same thinking that created them.”
The definition of insanity is “doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results.” If any of this sounds like you, you’re not alone. Hundreds of thousands of people go through the same cyclical process several times a year, every year. If you’ve been afraid to try or have made New Year’s resolutions year after year and failed repeatedly, it can be so discouraging, but the worst thing you can do is allow yourself to become a victim of circumstance.
Nothing changes until something changes
It takes courage, and it takes energy, but you have the chance to begin again. You can change and overcome challenges. You have the power to break through self-limiting beliefs. Nothing can stop you from becoming the person you want to be and creating the life you want to live accept for you.
The difference is: If you want a different result, you have to do something different. Something inside you must change before anything outside of you can change. You can make New Year’s resolutions all you want, but until something is different, you will keep getting the same results.
Whatever it is you do today, you are creating your future. If you do nothing today, you are creating your future. If you “go for it” today, you are creating your future. The second you decide to act and push yourself out of your comfort zone, you win.
So, with 2020 right around the corner, what are your goals?
Here are 6 common areas of life and goals. These are very general, but we recommend that yours be as specific and detailed as possible.
- Reduce stress and create life-work balance
- Plan a better career path or transition
- Improve professional skills (presentation, leadership, time-management, etc.)
- Start or grow a business
- Pay off credit card debt
- Establish a nest egg
- Save for large purchases
- Plan retirement
- Establish daily self-care routines
- Nutritional goals,
- Exercise and physical goals
- Wellness goals (for ex: stress management)
- Lifestyle changes.
Relationships: family; romantic; social
- Meeting the love of your life
- Improving your current relationship with the love of your life
- Getting along better with your parents or colleagues
- Communication with your teenage children
- Broadening your social circle
- Build confidence; end procrastination; become proactive
- Develop a happier attitude; learn to think positively
- Overcome limiting beliefs; find one’s purpose and passion
- Break bad habits, create good ones
- Deepen commitment to spiritual practices
- Broaden your understanding of religious philosophies
- Learn to practice The Law of Attraction
- Seek answers to questions you ponder or don’t understand
- Grow along spiritual lines and principles
Any of these goals are possible. If any of them (or others) appeal to you, know that YOU CAN. It may feel like moving a mountain right now, but one step at a time, they can be achieved.
If you decide to “go for it,” it does not matter what you call it, be it New Year’s resolution or just a commitment to change.
- see it clearly and believe you can do it.
- become the person you need to be to achieve it.
- develop the dicipline and character to make your goal reality
- don’t be the person who wants success, be the person willing to fight for it.
One thing you DON” T have to do is go it alone. No one is coming to do it for you, so you do have to get your a## in gear and get busy. But you don’t have to fly solo. DO get support. DO find someone who can help you clarify your goals. DO find someone who will hold you accountable and help you remember your why. DO get an outside perspective that is objective. Who is that person? If you don’t have an answer already, we suggest working with a professional coach.
A coach is skilled in helping you:
- Clarify your goals and create a robust and actionable plan
- Identify blocks that have gotten in the way of success in the past & help you overcome them.
- Help you stay motivated, committed, and hold you accountable.
- Collaborate with you to form a “think-tank” and come up with ideas that you wouldn’t have had on your own.
- Save you time and money because you are less likely to make mistakes and get off track.
Life coaching works! Life Coach Library makes finding a coach you love convenient and RISK-FREE. When you register and complete a short survey, we’ll match you with up to three coaches who will offer you a complimentary coaching consolation. From there, you choose the best coach for you and start reaching your goals! The best part? Our service is FREE.
You haven’t lived your best year yet! Will 2020 be it?